This Little Boy Dressed Up As Audra McDonald For A School Project And She Loved It

Nine-year-old Brendan O’Brien loves theater, so when he had to choose an icon to honor for a Black History Month project at school, the decision was a no-brainer. 

Brendan is in the fourth grade at the Condon K-8 School in South Boston. For Black History Month in February, all of the students in his class had to do a research project on an influential black figure, past or present. Each child created a presentation and dressed up as their icon of choice for a “wax museum,” in which they would recite a speech about their person’s history.

When Brendan learned of the assignment, he immediately knew who he wanted to be: Tony winner Audra McDonald.

The 9-year-old chose a 1920s-inspired dress, fishnets, heels and a wig inspired by McDonald’s recent role in Broadway’s “Shuffle Along.”

On Feb. 28, the kids put on their “wax museum” exhibit, which featured historical figures like Rosa Parks and Martin Luther King, Jr., sports stars like Jackie Robinson and Michael Jordan, political icons like the Obamas, STEM heroes like Katherine Johnson, Dorothy Vaughan, and Mary Jackson, and of course, a tiny Audra McDonald. 

“Brendan loved that he was able to share with his friends something he is passionate about,” his mom, Nicole, told The Huffington Post. “He told us no one knew who Audra McDonald was. Just as important as her awards and Tony records, Brendan has been inspired by the work she does on behalf of marriage equality and NOH8. He shared that with his classmates.”

Nicole said she loved seeing Brendan’s enthusiasm in sharing his knowledge about McDonald’s life and career. “For a kid like Brendan this kind of project is engaging and makes learning come to life,” she said. “He had quite a crowd.” 

Even Audra McDonald herself loved Brendan’s project. Nicole tweeted a photo of him in his costume, which she retweeted. “I am honored!!!!!” the Broadway star wrote.  

Brendan fell in love with theater when he saw his first show at Boston Children’s Theatre at the age of 4. “He told us that day that he wanted to be on stage,” Nicole said. The little boy attends the summer camp at BCT, has appeared in some of its productions throughout the year and performed with other theater programs as well. 

Last year, Brendan’s friends were able to see him perform in a show and do what he loves, which was an exciting experience for everyone.

“His dream is to perform on Broadway,” Nicole said. “He spends hours learning about shows, actors and actresses and performing at home.”

Brendan “screamed with excitement” when he sawMcDonald’s tweet about his project. “For him that kindness and acknowledgment meant the world,” said Nicole. He also received an autographed photo of the actress from her assistant.

The day of the wax museum was particularly fun for Brendan because he got to wear his costume all day, though he removed the heels during recess. He also loved how much interest his friends showed toward his project.

This sort of experience is typical for Brendan, Nicole explained, noting that his large public school is a place where her son feels loved and supported.

“We love that he has always felt comfortable being who he is in his school,” Nicole said. “He brings a pink lunch box, sits with the girls and likes to braid their hair. For Halloween this year he dressed up as Marilyn Monroe!”

She added, “His school is a wonderfully inclusive place where every child is celebrated. He is authentically himself and is loved for that.”

The O’Briens hope all kids can have that kind of experience some day. Nicole said they’re “thankful every day” for the Condon K-8 School, its administration, faculty and the other families.

Nicole hopes Brendan’s interaction with Audra McDonald reminds others that there are good people in the world

“Small acts of kindness go a long way to supporting and encouraging kids like Brendan who want to be like them when they grow up,” she said. “And having a school and a community that is supportive of all kids is so important.”

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This Nigerian Family Is The Best Thing To Ever Happen To 'Family Feud'

A Nigerian family is going viral for being delightfully extra on an episode of Steve Harvey’s “Family Feud.”

Five siblings of the Obu family charmed Harvey and the audience alike during their pre-game introduction where they share some hilarious banter with Harvey. The best part is when Harvey loses it after asking one of the Obu children about his unique name:

“Your name is Obu? And your last name is Obu?” Harvey asks. “What is your middle name, Obu?”

“It’s Obu.” 

The episode seems to have originally aired in October 2016 according to a Facebook post by the Obu’s opponents, the Jacksons. But their hilarious appearance has now gone viral after resurfacing on the “Family Feud” YouTube  on Feb. 22. 

Watch the video above and try not to smile. 

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We Need An Independent, Non-Partisan Commission To Investigate Trump And Russia Ties

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Attorney General Jeff Sessions announced that he would recuse himself from Trump Campaign-related investigations. However, his recusal should not be limited to only investigations involving the Trump Campaign. Under 28 CFR § 45.2, the Attorney General is required to recuse himself from a criminal investigation when he has a “personal or political relationship with any person or organization substantially involved in the conduct that is the subject of the investigation or prosecution,” and must also recuse himself from any investigation where his participation would “create an appearance of a conflict of interest likely to affect the public perception of the integrity of the investigation or prosecution.”

Serious allegations of misconduct involving President Trump and his associates occurred subsequent to the presidential election ― including but not limited to communications between General Flynn and the Russian government, potentially improper contact between White House aides and officials within the Justice Department, and misstatements by the Attorney General himself.

Just as importantly, we need to ensure that any investigation involving issues which overlap between the campaign and the Administration are fully and fairly investigated, including what influence the Russian government, Russian intelligence and Russian financial interests may have with regard to Mr. Trump and his Administration, and whether there have been any efforts to cover up the same.

As such, the Attorney General must recuse himself from any and all investigations involving the campaign, the transition, and the Trump Administration. He must obviously step aside from any investigation in which he himself may be a target.

I am not persuaded by the Attorney General’s effort to explain his misstatements to the Senate Judiciary Committee, in response to questions asked verbally by Senator Franken and in writing by Senator Leahy, and it is not at all clear that an after-the-fact clarification to the Committee will resolve this matter. As every Democrat on the House Judiciary Committee wrote, the question of whether or not the Attorney General’s statement constitutes perjury should be reviewed by the FBI and the U.S. Attorney for the District of Columbia.

I am troubled by President Trump’s statement that he does not think Attorney General Sessions should recuse himself from any Russia-related investigations. It was wholly inappropriate for the President to discourage the Attorney General or anyone else from recusing themselves from any ongoing criminal investigation―let alone an investigation in which he and members of his Administration are potential suspects. Such statements fly in the face of applicable DOJ guidelines. They also smack of an attempted cover-up.

These events and statements also make abundantly clear, as I and many other Members of Congress have stated previously, that we need an independent, non-partisan commission to review the entire matter.

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Should We Tell Immigrants To Go Back Into Hiding?

Earlier this week, Immigration and Customs Enforcement in Jackson, Mississippi, arrested and detained Daniela Vargas, an undocumented immigrant, after she spoke out about immigration issues at a conference.

Vargas was issued DACA, a two year renewable protection from deportation, that had lapsed, and because she entered the country on a visa waiver program, immigration officials are now stating that she has no right to a hearing before a judge. Vargas can be put on the next plane to Argentina.

This news has sent shockwaves through immigrant communities. Non-citizens with DACA no longer feel safe, let alone those who have no protection from deportation. Advocates are urging people with DACA to not let it lapse, and to not speak out publicly about their immigration statuses. However, putting the onus on those who have taken great risks to protect themselves, hardly seems like an adequate answer to the Trump Administration’s continued assault on immigrant rights. Instead, we need to continue to organize, litigate and expose the injustices inherent in this system.

This is not the first time that ICE has tried to deport a DACA-eligible person under a pretext, and it will not be the last. The U.S. government has long used immigration as a way to target political activists starting from Emma Goldman to Marcus Garvey to Tam Tran and now, Daniela Vargas.

The fact that Vargas can be removed without trial, is probably not applicable to most people with DACA, and stems from the fact that she came here under the visa waiver program. Under the Visa Waiver Program, certain non-citizens are permitted to enter the United States as tourists for 90 days or less if they, among other things, waive any right “to contest, other than on the basis of an application for asylum, any action for removal of the alien.” But does that apply to minors and children who were brought here by their parents and grew up to become adults who knowingly or unknowingly overstayed their admittance?

Imagine the case of Vargas, a minor who is brought over at the age of seven to the United States. She probably doesn’t speak or understand English at this time. She is made to sign a “visa waiver” form at the port of entry, waiving her right to a hearing in immigration court. The minor grows up in the U.S., overstaying the 90 days, through no real fault of her own, or anyone else. When she is 22, she gets stopped and detained by ICE for being politically visible under the pretext that her DACA has lapsed, and hence she has no protection from deportation. Does she have any right to a trial instead of expedited removal? After all, how can a minor waive her rights?

The courts are clear that any waiver of rights by a citizen or non-citizen must be voluntary. See Nose v. U.S. Att’y Gen., 993 F.2d 75, 78-79 (5th Cir. 1993); Bayo v. Chertoff, 535 F.3d 749 (7th Cir. 2008).

In Galuzzo v. Holder the Second Circuit Court cited Johnson v. Zerbst, 304 U.S. 458, 464, stating with emphasis that, “We indulge every reasonable presumption against waiver of fundamental constitutional rights.” Galuzzo, an Italian national, argued that he had not waived his right to a pre-removal hearing just because he entered on a visa-waiver program and moreover, the government failed to produce a signed waiver from him.

The court ruled that absent a signed waiver, Galuzzo had a due process right to a pre-removal hearing. However, the court did not provide relief to Galuzzo and remanded the case to the Department of Homeland Security (DHS) to determine whether Galuzzo was prejudiced by a denial of his due process right to a pre-removal hearing.

Additionally, in Mokarram v. U.S. Atty. Gen., 316 F. App’x 949 (11th Cir. 2009), the Eleventh Circuit ruled that an immigrant’s due process rights were violated when he was removed without a hearing under the visa waiver program and that this warranted remand to permit administrative determination as to whether he was substantially prejudiced against by such violation.

The hurdle is whether the non-citizen was substantially prejudiced against by being denied a right to a pre-removal hearing. If a non-citizen has claims such as asylum or cancellation of removal, then she is more likely to be substantially prejudiced against. If there is pending legislation in her favor or she can adjust her status within the next few years through employment or family-based immigration, she can also make the argument that court proceedings would give her the time necessary for adjustment of status, a much better scenario than expedited removal in violation of due process to a country that she neither knows nor remembers.

While the legal system has many drawbacks, advocates should ferociously fight any assertion that their clients have given up basic due process rights to a pre-removal hearing in immigration court. As the case law suggests, it may be unconstitutional to deny someone those rights, especially if they were purportedly waived by an individual as a minor.

Undocumented youth and our parents have taken many risks and shown immense political courage over the past decade to come out of the shadows, and organized to protect themselves and their communities. This is not the time to tell immigrants to go back into the closet, but to join forces and show the Trump Administration that the risk immigrants took was not in vain. That’s what Emma Goldman, Marcus Garvey, Tam Tran and other change-makers targeted by pretextual deportations would have wanted from us.

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Liked ‘Get Out’? Jordan Peele Plans To Make More Films On ‘Social Demons’

If you loved “Get Out,” then you’re in luck. Jordan Peele is planning to make an entire series of horror films.

The comedian and filmmaker told The Verge that he hopes to unveil four other “social thrillers” within the next decade.

“I love these new social thrillers,” he said in the interview published Thursday. “There’s several other ideas that have been germinating for the past eight years, and I’d like to do all of them. As far as I’m concerned, my next decade or so — along with helping other untapped artists, or untapped identities, find their own platforms as a producer — I want to write and direct these four other social thrillers.”

In February, Peele told Business Insider that he plans to explore different “social demons” and explore “innately human monsters that are woven into the fabric of how we think and how we interact” with each film.

“The best and scariest monsters in the world are human beings and what we are capable of, especially when we get together,” he said.

“Get Out,” Peele’s directorial debut, examines attitudes about race by telling the story of a young black man, Chris (played by Daniel Kaluuya), meeting his white girlfriend’s family for the first time. Suspense intensifies as the weekend goes on and Chris realizes that the white family isn’t as welcoming as he had hoped.

The thriller/comedy grossed $30.5 million over opening weekend and debuted with an impressive 100 percent on Rotten Tomatoes. Its score has since been knocked down a tad to 99 percent

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'White Tears' Is The Horror Story 'La La Land' Should Have Become

Despite dramatically failing to win Best Picture at the Academy Awards, “La La Land” was a film juggernaut of 2016. Audiences and critics thrilled to its romantic, yet melancholy, portrayal of an idealistic jazz fiend (Ryan Gosling) who privileges musical purity. Well, not universally ― some bridled at the positioning of white keyboardist Sebastian as the savior of jazz music; his foil, the sellout of the film, is played by John Legend. The white guy is the one who really cares, and by his caring he earns a certain ownership over the pure jazz tradition. He represents the best of jazz.

For filmgoers who chafed at seeing a bland hipster tap his way into a white savior role for an African-American musical tradition, White Tears will hit bookstores bearing inside a remarkably similar setup ― but also the comeuppance “La La Land” never gave to Sebastian. Where “La La Land” is a nostalgic musical romance, White Tears is a supernatural mystery, a horror story, and ultimately a tale of black Americans’ historical exploitation by white profiteers.

The novel opens on Seth, the book’s narrator, living in New York City and wandering the streets recording the ambient sounds he encounters. It’s not long after college, and he lives with Carter, his best friend from the liberal arts school they attended together. Seth is awkward, nerdy and self-conscious of his tenuous position in life as a new graduate with little safety net, but Carter buoys the partnership with his careless charisma, his single-minded passions, and, perhaps most importantly, his seemingly endless supply of cash. Carter Wallace is a scion of an enormously wealthy family, and he uses his dough to fund his and Seth’s shared pursuit: music.

The odd couple’s friendship was forged over music ― specifically, their particular interest in how the sounds they love are created. Though Seth prefers new, shiny music like EDM (old music makes him feel uncomfortably unmoored from the present, as he slips deeply into what he listens to), Carter’s ideal is the early, unpolished era of musical recording. Such is the strength of his personality, and the depth of Seth’s naive admiration for his new friend, that the obsession with vintage records, specifically the blues, becomes a shared one. Carter’s place, and later their apartment, fills up with expensive mixing boards and rare vintage microphones; he pays top dollar for blues records, the older the better. They begin collecting 78 RPM records, which were common in the gramophone era but were mostly phased out by mid-century ― 45s are too close to modern audio recording for their taste.

In college, Carter is a typical white Rasta; by the time they’ve moved to the city, he’s savvier, a hipster in an old-fashioned haircut and suspenders. “We really did feel that our love of the music bought us something, some right to blackness, but by the time we got to New York, we’d learned not to talk about it,” Seth recalls. “We didn’t want to be mistaken for the kind of suburban white boys who post pictures of themselves holding malt liquor bottles and throwing gang signs.” Of course, the blues buddies aren’t any different from those suburban white boys, save for their tact about flaunting their self-perceived ownership of black musical tropes. Their love for the music convinces them that the music is for them. They set up shop as a boutique production company, pursuing the crackling, analog sound that Carter deems authentic.

Instead of triumph, however, what ensues is dizzying mayhem. The pair becomes fascinated by a blues song Seth picked up while recording chess players at Washington Square Park. Carter convinces Seth, the skilled one of the operation, to rework the recording ― playing it through a feeble vintage speaker to re-record it, layering it with fuzz and distortion: “By the time I’d finished, it sounded like a worn 78, the kind of recording that only exists in one poor copy, a thread on which time and memory hang.” Carter fakes a record label and calls the mysterious singer Charlie Shaw; he dates the song to 1928 and releases it on a file-sharing site. Blues collectors clamor over this precious discovery, bidding to buy the record.

Then one commenter posts a series of all-caps queries, insisting that they meet in person to discuss their finding. “Now I will tell you something,” he types, once the meeting has been arranged. “Before you posted that song, I had not heard Charlie Shaw since 1959.”

They’re dismissive, certain that Charlie Shaw is a figment of their own masterful imaginations and encyclopedic 1920s blues knowledge. Then tragedy strikes Carter, leaving Seth panicked and at odds with his friend’s wealthy, insular family, who are already suspicious of their son’s trust-fund-free friend ― except for Leonie, Carter’s older sister and an aspiring artist. Together, Leonie and Seth journey South in hopes of saving her brother and locating the real Charlie Shaw ― if the real Charlie Shaw exists. In the process, Seth is confronted with police brutality against black men, the roots of the prison-industrial complex in slavery and Jim Crow, and the exploited, unrecognized work of black musicians ― which become closely intertwined in the narrative.

The book is moody, threatening, and profoundly dark; Kunzru’s prose has a Delilloesque density, constructing settings and atmospheres so charged and vivid they seem to envelop the reader in a miasma of mise-en-scène. Carter and Seth’s work, and the idealistic gloss they layer over a creeping sense of historical guilt, receives no artistically optimistic reading from Kunzru. “He respects the music,” Seth tells Leonie, defensively. “That doesn’t make them like you any better,” she replies. “It’s theirs. They’d rather you left it to them.” It’s a glib reading of a complex dynamic, offered by an insulated daughter of privilege, but there’s a kernel of truth: The boys can’t buy authenticity and ownership of the blues tradition with the strength of their interest. It belongs to someone else.

Kunzru, a British writer of Indian descent, is here taking on a dynamic somewhat outside his direct experience. When it comes to the black blues tradition, he’s taking an outsider perspective: the reader comes along with him on Seth’s journey, one defined by historical naivety and self-absorption. White Tears isn’t exactly a re-centering of black experience, but a collapsing of the white hero mythology that often guides American movies, books and TV shows that nominally address black culture. It zeroes in on an impulse that yearns to be pure, uncompromising and compensatory, finding the nasty worm of entitlement and exploitation that’s burrowed at the heart.

By the time White Tears resolves, it’s still tricky to assign a single genre to the novel: It’s a story about ghosts, about sounds reverberating not just through space but through time, about grievances leaking through the fabric of decades, and about retribution, violence and hatred. At every turn, Kunzru’s words concoct a dreamlike world where the past isn’t dead, nor even past, and the boundaries of reality flicker at the margins. For a nation seduced by a fantasy of white appropriation, maybe a horror story of white appropriation is exactly what we need.

The Bottom Line:

In hypnotic style, White Tears punctures the fantasy of a white male musical hero championing black artistic traditions, uncovering a dark and ugly underbelly.

What other reviewers think:

Publishers Weekly: “The excellent new novel from Kunzru (Gods Without Men) opens as a coming-of-age yarn and ends as a ghost story, but its real subject is a vital piece of American history: the persistence of cultural appropriation in popular music.”

Kirkus: “Record collecting turns dangerous in a smart, time-bending tale about cultural appropriation.” 

Who wrote it?

Hari Kunzru is a British novelist. He has been recognized as one of Granta’s 20 Best Young British Novelists (2003) and awarded a Guggenheim Fellowship (2014). White Tears is his fifth novel. Fun fact: Kunzru is married to Katie Kitamura, whose well-received novel A Separation came out in February.

Who will read it?

Fans of gritty literary genre fiction and racially provocative novels.

Opening lines:

“That summer I would ride my bike over the bridge, lock it up in front of one of the bars on Orchard Street and drift through the city on foot, recording. People and places. Sidewalk smokers, lover’s quarrels, drug deals. I wanted to store the world and play it back just as I’d found it, without change or addition. I collected audio of thunderstorms, music coming out of cars, the subway trains rumbling underfoot; it was all reality, a quality I had lately begun to crave, as if I were deficient in some necessary vitamin or mineral.” 

Notable passage:

“The first thing he told me after he unbolted the door was that I should prepare to cry. He’d cried. He’d been crying for two hours straight. He told me to just sit and listen ― I wouldn’t be the same after. He turned to the desk, and through the studio speakers came the sound of a New York street. Traffic, the sound of footsteps. My footsteps. I quickly recognized Tompkins Square in the East Village. I could hear barking from the dog run, skaters panhandling by the benches. He turned up the volume. I heard myself walk past the skaters into a sort of aural dead zone. The street noise faded, the dogs too. The only significant signal was the sound of a guitar, someone fingerpicking in a weird open tuning that made the instrument seem to wail and moan. It was mesmerizing, the performance of a musician struggling with inexpressible pain and loss. The recording was completely clear, unmarred by voices or traffic.”

White Tears
By Hari Kunzru
Knopf, $26.95
Publishes March 14, 2017  

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How Poetry Helped This Eating Disorder Survivor Heal

“Anorexia is not a choice, but recovery is.” These are the words 20-year-old slam poet Blythe Baird lives by. 

The Illinois-native said she developed an eating disorder in high school, after growing up “an obese child” in an environment where weight and food were constant conversations in her life. Baird told HuffPost that her parents tried to help her lose weight by enrolling her in a diet program at a young age, but it only fueled her eating disorder. By high school anorexia had fully taken hold of her life. 

“When I was fat, people either made fun of me or didn’t see me. When I got thin, suddenly people saw me as attractive and worth talking to,” Baird said. “It was hard not to see my weight loss as the best thing that ever happened to me.”

Throughout high school, Baird said recovery was a constant battle. She would lose weight, gain it back, lose it again; she was in a constant state of recovering then relapsing. “Recovery has not been at all linear for me,” Baird told HuffPost, adding that there are different components to healing: learning to love your body as it is and then “the actual act of eating.” 

So, right around her 17th birthday, Baird began to write poetry, using her writing as an outlet for processing her eating disorder.  

“These stories were too heavy to carry around with me, so poetry became a home for them,” she said.

Since then, Baird has become an award-winning slam poet and a published author. Spoken word ― a form of poetry performed aloud for an audience ― is her artistic weapon of choice.

Recovery is a choice I have to consciously and continuously make every day.
Blythe Baird

Baird’s slam poems are intrinsically feminist with many dissecting her long-fought battle with anorexia.

“If you develop an eating disorder when you are already thin to begin with you go to the hospital,” Baird says in one of her most popular poems “When The Fat Girl Gets Skinny,” which has more than a million views on YouTube. “If you develop an eating disorder when you are not thin to begin with you are a success story.”

In 2014, Baird was the youngest competitor at the National Poetry Slam. In 2015, she published her debut book, a collection of her poetry, titled Give Me A God I Can Relate To.

Now a college student in Minnesota double majoring in Women’s Studies and Creative Writing, Baird sees spoken word and writing as therapeutic tools that pushed her to recovery. 

“Recovery is not linear, nor does it have a past tense,” she said. “Recovery is a choice I have to consciously and continuously make every day.”

As part of National Eating Disorder Awareness Week, HuffPost sat down with Baird to discuss her battle with anorexia, her love for poetry and how she used her writing to heal. 

When did you first discover slam poetry? 

I first discovered slam poetry in high school. I had never heard of it before. There was this thing at my school called “Writers Week” where different authors come to speak to students. Sierra DeMulder (who is now like my big sister) was performing. She had a line in one of her poems, “Your body is not a temple. Your body is the house you grew up in ― how dare you try to burn it to the ground?”

It rocked my shit. It made me want to take recovery seriously. I was amazed that a poem could have that much of an impact on me. I wrote my first poem a few years later, when I went to Slam Camp in Minnesota, where Sierra was my counselor. I haven’t stopped writing or performing since. Now, I’m a counselor at the same camp I wrote my first poem at. 

It is a rebellion and act of political warfare to consume in a culture that tells us we are only meant to be consumable.
Blythe Baird

How has poetry helped you on your path to healing?

Writing has become integral to my healing process. I write because I have to let these experiences live outside of myself. These stories were too heavy to carry around with me, so poetry became a home for them. My involvement in spoken word has completely shaped the lens through which I view the world. It taught me how to articulate an argument in a way that is clear, concise, effective, and artistic. It also taught me how to pull the meaning and significance out of my personal experiences in order to use them as a method of eliciting social change.

When I get messages like, “I ate breakfast because of your poem,” or “I started going to therapy and getting help because of your poem” or even “Your poetry makes me feel like I’m not alone,” I remember that my writing is doing bigger things than I as a person am capable of. I want to honor that. That is healing and motivating for me, too.

If you could give advice to someone struggling with an eating disorder right now, what would you say? 

Recovery is possible and beautiful. One day, after years of starving and gaining and fighting, I stepped on a scale and suddenly the number didn’t say anything about me. That night, I ate dinner with my family and nothing on my plate said anything about me, either. I got ice cream from a truck and I didn’t have to make myself earn it. I could take it just because I wanted it, just because it tastes good. Recovery is freeing and worth striving for. Also, even if you mess up, don’t give up. It’s an ongoing process. 

Why do you think it’s so important for everyone ― but young women especially ― to understand that their worth is not determined by a number on the scale?

In a world that does everything in its power to convince women that we need to be smaller, that we should occupy less space, it is a radical act to take. It is a rebellion and act of political warfare to consume in a culture that tells us we are only meant to be consumable. This, too, is fighting the patriarchy.

Head over to Baird’s website to read more about her. 

If you’re struggling with an eating disorder, call the National Eating Disorder Association hotline at 1-800-931-2237.

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'This Is Us' Star Susan Kelechi Watson On What To Expect After That Big Death

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Spoiler alert: Please proceed with caution if you’re not up to date on “This Is Us.”

When “This Is Us” returns on Tuesday, the Pearson family will face a really tough loss: the death of William Hill (Ron Cephas Jones), who succumbed to cancer during last week’s episode. And it’s not going to be easy. 

William, the biological father of Randall Pearson (Sterling K. Brown), was a fun-loving person with a passion for music and the arts who faced a troubled and storied past. By the time Randall tracked down his dad for the first time, William’s health was failing. 

As the season progressed, William became a big part of Randall’s life, getting to know his wife, Beth (Susan Kelechi Watson), and their two daughters, Annie (Faithe Herman) and Tess (Eris Baker). So it’s no surprise that the family will take this hard, especially because Beth and the kids didn’t get to say a proper goodbye. 

In the last episode, Randall and William took a road trip to Memphis to visit William’s old stomping grounds and, along the way, they connected with some of William’s extended family. They stopped by the club where William used to play music and ate at one of his favorite restaurants. But William’s health took a turn for the worse and he never made it back home to see Beth and the kids. 

Beth did get to see the two of them off before they hit the road in a short but memorable scene. In a way, at that moment, Kelechi Watson had to say goodbye to her castmate Cephas Jones.

“There’s this scene where they’re getting in the car to go to Memphis and I bend down into the car and I look in his eyes and I say, ‘You take care of you.’ And the look Ron gave me, I said, ‘Ron, stop. You can’t do that … You know what you’re doing.’ We’re looking at each other like he knows he’s going to leave,” Kelechi Watson told The Huffington Post during a Build Series interview. “We knew that these moments were so precious having him on set.”

Because the NBC series toggles back and forth between the past and present, it’s possible we’ll see William in flashback scenes, Kelechi Watson said. Though, she added, “He’s gone now in that everyday way and that was hard.”

The actress said William’s death will hit her character “hard.” Probably harder than the audience may expect. 

“They started off as strangers … and then she kind of sort of let him in. And then he figures his role out in the family, and they become family and they become friends. It’s going to be difficult and she didn’t have a chance to say goodbye,” she said. “And her being his main caretaker in a sense, being home with him. You’ll find out how much she’s helped him in terms of medicine and doctors … So, it’s going to have a big effect.”

With only two episodes left, viewers are waiting in anticipation for how Season 1 will wind down. Kelechi Watson assures “This Is Us” fans that some lingering storylines will be tied up in the season finale, especially when it comes to Milo Ventimiglia’s and Mandy Moore’s characters, Jack and Rebecca Pearson. 

“There are aspects of Jack and Rebecca’s life that we’ve been tracking through the season and we’ll see a lot of that — and some questions will be answered,” she said.

“This Is Us” has already been picked up for two additional seasons, so there are plenty more stories to tell.

When asked whether viewers will learn more about Beth’s past in upcoming seasons, Kelechi Watson said, “That has to be a possibility playing with time and everything like that. We have the space right now to do it because we have two more seasons. Have they thought about it that far? I’m not sure. I imagine that’s an option that’s available to us. I know that we will learn about who she is, her family and her career.”

“This Is Us” airs Tuesdays at 9 p.m. ET on NBC. Watch the full Build Series interview with Susan Kelechi Watson below. 

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Second Marriages Are More Likely To End In Divorce. Here's Why

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Marrying for a second ― or third time ― is not for the faint of heart.  

Even with the best intentions, statistics show that second or later marriages are much more likely to end in divorce than first marriages. 

Why are these unions more perilous than first marriages? Below, marriage therapists share seven reasons why remarrying couples have a harder time staying together.

“A lot of couples enter into second marriages before the first one is finished. This can contribute to trust issues surfacing later on in areas such as communication with an ex or activity on social media sites. Healthy boundaries are crucial in all relationships, but especially in second marriages.” ― Kurt Smith, a therapist who counsels men 

“In first marriages, it’s expected that couples will split finances as well as share financial goals and responsibilities. Because of the higher age of couples in second marriages, couples often get together with much more financial assets than they had in their first marriages. They also probably had independent financial goals they’ve been working towards for a long time before they got married a second time. And just because they’re married now doesn’t mean that their goals should change from what they were before they were married. There are also questions about how to split household finances and how to divide assets that were accrued before the current marriage. Money is already a top issue that couples fight about. With more complicated finances, couples in second marriages are more likely to fight about finances, which often leads to divorce.” ― Aaron Anderson, a marriage and family therapist in Denver, Colorado

“Couples remarrying should still get premarital (or pre-commitment) counseling. A good counselor or religious figure will be able to ask the questions you need answered before you wed, including some questions you may not have thought of or are avoiding. You’ll start out on a more secure basis with some independent advice and counsel.” ― Tina B. Tessina, a psychotherapist and author of How To Be A Couple And Still Be Free 

“One reason many couples choose to solve or deal with marital problems is because they don’t want to go through the turmoil of breaking up their family and divvying up community property. If you don’t share children and significant assets, there’s less incentive to try to make second marriages work. And if a stepparent has never bonded with stepchildren, there’s less guilt for splitting up a blended family that never felt blended ― in fact, it might even feel like a relief for all parties. Divorce is not as scary as it was the first time around. It’s now the ‘devil you know:’ if you’ve been through it once before, you know you can do it again.” ― Virginia Gilbert, a marriage and family therapist based in Los Angeles

“Whether its the unexpected complications of blending families or the disappointment that a new marriage still falls short of one’s hope for marital bliss, expectations about marriage and family will be challenged by a second marriage. Complicating this, many second marriages aspire to avoid the irreconcilable problems they left in a previous marriage, only to find them in different forms in their new marriage. Expectations are often unreasonably high, and bonds can crumble under this burdensome weight.” ― Alicia HClark, a psychologist in Washington, D.C.   

“You both likely have leftovers from earlier relationships. If you understand your own history and seek to learn about your partner’s, you’ll stop repeating past mistakes. Talking about your past will help you understand each other, and resolve guilt, fear and jealousy about past loves. Learn about your similarities and differences, hopes and dreams. Familiarity with what went wrong in the past will help you recognize problems before you repeat them.” ― Tina B. Tessina

“When people get married, they envision all the love and romance that they’ll share together as a happily wedded couple. But most couples in second marriages also bring children with them which means that along with all the romance comes practical aspects of managing not just one, but two families. That means shuttling children around to and from exes’ houses, splitting holidays and helping each others’ kids (who may not like you) with homework, dance costumes and soccer practice. That also means that you may not have the time together you want to have because you’re splitting it with both partner’s children. All the to-do’s of one family is hard enough ― having two families makes it even harder.” ― Aaron Anderson

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Alternative Wedding Shoes For Brides Who Live In Sneakers

No heels? No problem!

A pair of sky-high stilettos might make you feel like Beyoncé, but let’s be honest: heels that high hurt like hell and will, without a doubt, cramp your dance floor flow. Instead, take a cue from one of the bangin’ brides below who sported a pair of sneakers with style. 

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