Frank Ocean Releases First Solo Music Since 'Blonde' And 'Endless'

It looks like the wait for new Frank Ocean music wasn’t nearly as long as the gap between 2012’s “Channel Orange” and 2016’s “Blonde” and “Endless.”

The singer sent fans into the weekend with a smooth new track, “Chanel,” which he debuted Friday night on his Beats 1 show, “blonded RADIO.”

“My guy pretty like a girl / And he got fight stories to tell / I see on both sides like Chanel / See on both sides like Chanel,” he sings at the top of the track. The lyrics tackle intimacy with a lover, sexuality, fame and success.

The song played 18 times during the two-hour radio show — including a remixed version featuring A$AP Rocky, according to Rolling Stone.

The artist was also recently featured on Calvin Harris’ new song, “Slide,” alongside Migos.

Ocean shared two images on his Tumblr after the release.

His fans were, naturally, unprepared for a new song so soon after “Blonde” and “Endless.”

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Cop Who Tried To Keep Driver From Filming Reignites Debate Over Police Privacy

A police department in Wilmington, North Carolina, is backtracking after one of its officers was captured on video telling a citizen ― falsely ― that he couldn’t record their interaction.

It’s a sobering incident that raises broader questions about how much privacy a police officer can expect amid the delicate balancing act of transparency, officer safety and investigation integrity.

On Feb. 26, that balance was thrown off when Wilmington Police Sgt. Kenneth Becker told citizen Jesse Bright that a new state law prohibited him from recording police. Such a law doesn’t exist, and Bright questioned the officer about which law he was referring to. Bright expected he would know if one existed; he’s an attorney.

Bright, who was working his side job as an Uber driver at the time, told the officer that he was “scared” and wanted to keep “recording in case anything happens.”

Eventually, officers searched his car after telling him that their K-9 unit detected drugs, but they found nothing, Bright told news station WECT. They let him go, and Wilmington Police Chief Ralph Evangelous released a statement Wednesday saying that an investigation had been launched and acknowledging that citizens have a right to shoot video of officers:

Taking photographs and videos of people that are in plain sight including the police is your legal right. As a matter of fact we invite citizens to do so when they believe it is necessary. We believe that public videos help to protect the police as well as our citizens and provide critical information during police and citizen interaction.

If Bright’s footage hadn’t been released, we would never have seen that the officer either lied about his rights or propagated a gross misunderstanding of the law.

It’s extremely disturbing that a police officer would give false information like that and try to prohibit a person from exercising their right to film police,” Mike Meno, spokesman for the American Civil Liberties Union of North Carolina, told The Huffington Post. “This is an incident where the driver happened to be an attorney. He knew the law. What would have happened if someone who didn’t know the law was being told this falsehood?”

It’s hard to say. Meno told HuffPost that his office has heard this kind of story “with some regularity,” but this is the first time they’ve had access to tangible evidence of such an interaction.

It’s also unclear which law Becker was interpreting, if any.

House Bill 972, which took effect in October, makes footage from dashboard and police-worn body cameras effectively private in North Carolina, barring almost anyone who isn’t featured in the video from viewing it without a court order. It also allows law enforcement agencies to withhold video if it would “harm the reputation or jeopardize the safety of a person.”

Certainly, the bill doesn’t apply to Bright’s case because it doesn’t involve police footage, and we don’t know whether the officer was trying to repurpose that law to fit his narrative. But that incident and H.B. 972 exemplify why states are having such a hard time nailing down any law pertaining to police interaction and video, as they try to keep both officers and the public happy.

At the end of the day, officers don’t want to be demonized without due process over a recording that may not present the whole picture; the public, meanwhile, has seen far too many videos that contradict police statements, so for them transparency and the speedy release of evidence are paramount.

Exempting video from public record “poses a perception issue about accountability,” Tod Burke, a professor of criminal justice at Radford University and a former Maryland police officer, told HuffPost.

“In a day and age where citizens are requesting additional transparency from police, it seems to go counter to that request,” he said. “However, there’s also an officer safety issue that’s involved. You don’t want the recording of an incident to jeopardize the officer’s safety, their family’s safety or their investigative ability.”

Many of the laws created thus far have leaned heavily in favor of officer privacy. Several jurisdictions have passed legislation requiring officers to wear body cameras, only to exempt that footage from open records laws. North Carolina’s law has been criticized for following suit and effectively barring public access. Meanwhile, a bill that had some movement in the Virginia General Assembly would have made releasing the name of an officer involved in a police-shooting investigation a misdemeanor ― though it was withdrawn last month by its sponsor.

Critics are wary of any legislation that blocks access to public documents. But those laws are often grounded in legitimate concerns for officers, Burke said. He noted that officers sometimes face threats of violence and property damage after a video is released, before and regardless of whether any wrongdoing is established.

The laws are a mess. But the silver lining, as Burke and ACLU officials note and as has been said before, is that there’s a national discourse in the first place and real attempts to make legislation that works for everyone.

“There are always going to be unanswered issues, and nothing should be cut in cement,” Burke said. “But we need to have something in place, and we need to revisit it … we hold ― and should hold ― police officers to a higher standard, but they’re in the job to enforce the laws, not to be abused.”

Just to reiterate: You can record your interactions with police. While there are no uniform federal rules on recording police specifically and federal appeals courts in some areas of the country haven’t ruled on the matter, you do have the right to film in a public space. In general, that includes filming police, unless you’re actively hindering an investigation.

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Will Smith Fulfills 20-Year Dream Of Bungee Jumping At Victoria Falls

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Will Smith lived out a long-held dream of bungee jumping at the Victoria Falls, and filmed his entire epic leap.

Video posted online by TMZ on Friday shows the 48-year-old Hollywood movie star falling from the bridge over the waterfall on the ZambiaZimbabwe border.

“Whoa,” the “Bad Boys” star shouted as he plummeted toward the Zambezi River below. “This is going to be a really cool shot. This is crazy!”

As he dangled mid-air on the bungee cord for several seconds, Smith revealed how he’d been wanting to bungee at the location for “like 20 years.”

“Oh, that was fantastic,” he added, once he was back on firm ground.

Check out the full video above.

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Muhammad Ali's Son Questioned At Airport —Again

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Just over a month after the son of legendary heavyweight champ Muhammad Ali was detained by security officials at a Florida airport who asked him if he was Muslim, he was questioned again at the Washington D.C. airport, his lawyer said.

Officials quizzed Muhammad Ali Jr., for about 20 minutes, lawyer Chris Mancini told the New York Daily News. He said that officers were skeptical about his identification, and that Ali, 44, was finally allowed to leave when he produced his U.S. passport.

The TSA said in a statement that agents were concerned about a “large piece of jewelry” he was wearing. Ali was given a “targeted” pat down and “cleared” to travel. The Department of Homeland Security insisted to the News that he was only held up for about 11 minutes.

 The incident occurred the day after Ali spoke out in Washington against Donald Trump’s travel ban at a congressional forum on immigration organized by House Democrats. He said that because of Trump’s travel policy, he was profiled for both his race and religion when he was detained for more than an hour and a half on Feb. 7 at the Fort Lauderdale airport as he and his mother were returning from Jamaica.

That time, he said he gave agents his name, then was asked: “What is you religion?” He responded: “Why would you even ask me what my religion is?” He was then taken to a back room.

Mancini indicated that Ali was targeted Friday because he had criticized Trump’s policies.

“Going to Washington obviously opened up a can of worms at DHS,” said Mancini, who added that “quite obviously” Ali has “now been put on a different” travel status and will likely be stopped frequently now.

Ali had traveled to Washington to speak at the forum from his Florida home on Wednesday with his mother, Khalilah Camacho-Ali. They experienced no problems flying to the forum. Both Ali and his mother are American citizens who were born in the country. Neither has any criminal record.

Rep. Debbie Wasserman Schultz (D-Fla.) happened to be on the same plane to Florida as Ali on Friday. She posed with him in the plane for a Twitter photo, adding: “On way home on DOMESTIC flight. Religiously profiling the son of ‘The Greatest’ will not make us safe.”

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Watch These Atlanta Anchors Do The News With Biggie Lyrics

There’s nothing that screams hip-hop more than a news anchor behind a news desk.

On the anniversary of Notorious B.I.G.’s death on Thursday, the professional folks over at Atlanta’s WSB-TV Channel 2 paid tribute to the iconic rapper by doing their traffic reports with Biggie’s most famous lyrics.

The best part: They managed to do the whole thing without laughing.

“We’re talking about delays right now … and if you don’t know, now you know,” anchor Fred Blankenship says smoothly, starting off the video above.

Blankenship and traffic reporter Mark Arum managed to slide into their reports lyrics from “Hypnotize” and “Juicy,” truly honoring the B.I.G.G.I.E. 

This isn’t the first time these anchors showcased their love for hip-hop at work. After rapper Phife Dawg died last March, the news duo honored him by inserting lyrics from Phife’s group A Tribe Called Quest into their report.

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Nicki Minaj Assembles Pop's Elite In Her Feud Against Remy Ma

Remy Ma, pay attention. It looks like Nicki Minaj is rounding up troops to back her up in this now-infamous hip-hop feud.

Hours after Minaj dropped her diss track “No Frauds” in response to Remy’s diss tracks released in late February, the Black Barbie went on Instagram to show Remy that Lil Wayne and Drake, who are featured in her song, aren’t the only people in her squad.

A video posted to Minaj’s Instagram account Friday shows pop’s elite players Selena Gomez, Jhene Aiko and Tinashe singing along to “No Frauds” in their respective cars.

The video ends with Ariana Grande’s recent Instagram post that promotes Minaj’s other newly released single, “Regret in Your Tears.”

“Didn’t expect this but love u girls so much for reppin,” Minaj wrote in the video’s caption, along with the hashtags #BadBtchsLinkUp and #TheyDontWantNoFrauds, and a crown and knife emoji. 

Minaj’s video could be an innocent shout-out to her A-list friends for showing their support, but we know shade when we see it.

It’s not clear if Minaj asked all four of the singers to make a video or post about her, but something about the videos seems rehearsed. What are the chances that Selena Gomez, Jhene Aiko and Tinashe would all be singing “No Frauds” in their own cars on the same day?

The video montage of pop stars seems pointed directly at Remy, especially because three of them are singing a diss track about her. But, then again, the video could just be Minaj’s attempt to use their star power to promote her newly released songs. After all, she did spend most of Friday tweeting about “No Frauds” reaching No. 1 on iTunes.

Whatever her intentions were, the Instagram video proves that Minaj has a whole lot of star power on her side of this diss track war. Now it’s up to Remy to show Minaj and her squad what’s really good.

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Over 150 Civil Rights Groups Call On Trump To Denounce Hate Crimes

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Over 150 major American civil rights groups called on President Donald Trump Friday to more forcefully respond to a wave of hate-related incidents sweeping the country. 

Amnesty International, the Anti-Defamation League, the NAACP, Muslim Advocates and the National Bar Association were among the over 150 major organizations to sign an open letter both accusing Trump of fostering an atmosphere of hate and being to slow to condemn crimes motivated by hate.

The letter cites a slew of horrific, “hate-based acts of violence or intimidation” in 2017, including the February shooting of two Indian men in Kansas, one of whom died; the burning of four mosques in less than two months; over 100 bomb threats against Jewish Community Centers, synagogues, and Anti-Defamation League offices; the shooting of a Sikh man in Washington; racist graffiti in Connecticut and Oregon; assaults of Latinos in California and New York; and the murders of seven transgender women of color. 

“While we welcome President Trump’s remarks to the joint session of Congress, where he noted ‘we are a country that stands united in condemning hate and evil in all of its very ugly forms,’ it was the first public acknowledgement he had made on specific recent events,” the letter states.  

“It is clear that the President has been slow to respond to hate incidents, when he has responded at all.  We strongly believe the President has a moral obligation to use his bully pulpit to speak out against acts of hatred when they occur.” 

The letter goes on to say that Trump and his surrogates have “too frequently used rhetoric and proposed and enacted policies that have fostered a hostile environment” toward minorities. 

“The President cannot condemn hate in one sentence and then in the same speech, promote falsehoods that can lead to bias and hate violence,” it says. 

Trump has portrayed black Americans as criminals and Mexicans as rapists. He has routinely disparaged Muslims, evaded questions about anti-Semitism, mocked the disabled, bragged about the sexual assault of women, and promised to remove certain protections for LGBTQ people. 

The Southern Poverty Law Center tracked over 1,000 bias incidents in the month after the Nov. 8 election. In some 37 percent of those incidents, the perpetrators directly referenced either Trump, his campaign slogans or his comments about sexual assault, according to the SPLC.

In 2015, hate crimes rose 7 percent, according to the FBI, driven by a 67 percent increase in hate crimes targeting Muslims. The agency has yet to release its numbers for 2016.

But while the FBI counted only 5,479 hate crimes in 2015, another government report estimates that number to be significantly higher. A survey by the U.S. Bureau of Justice Statistics found that there are likely a staggering 260,000 hate crimes annually in America. 

“We encourage the President, his staff and members of his Cabinet to condemn hate incidents when they happen,” Friday’s letter states. 

It also urges to the president to “continue the tradition of a White House interagency task force on hate violence, and make available the full resources of the federal government to track and report hate crimes, to investigate and prosecute the perpetrators, and to aid affected communities.”

“Our inclusive democracy demands no less,” it said. 

The White House did not immediately respond to a request for comment. 

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Deportation Halted For Cambodian Refugee Living In Minnesota As Legal Resident

Immigration authorities have released a Cambodian refugee living in Minnesota after they prepared to deport him to the Southeast Asian country.

Ched Nin was released last Friday after being held by Immigration and Customs Enforcement for six months, according to a statement published Wednesday by the Southeast Asia Resource Action Center.

Nin, who came to the United States from Thailand in 1986 at the age of 6, grew up as a legal U.S. resident with a green card. He has not yet obtained U.S. citizenship. 

The 37-year-old father of five was arrested in late August after a routine ICE sweep of ethnic Cambodians, according to Katrina Dizon Mariategue, immigration policy manager for the action center. 

“It’s a testament to how tough our current immigration laws and policies are and how unjust and biased the current system is against some of the most vulnerable communities,” Mariategue told HuffPost on Friday.

Mariategue, who helped organize advocacy around his case said that Nin served two years in prison after pleading guilty in 2010 to shooting a BB gun at the back of a vehicle. He was charged with second-degree assault with a dangerous weapon.

Mariategue said a concerted effort that involved asking congressional members to pressure Department of Homeland Security helped make the case for Nin to stand before an immigration judge. Jenny Srey, Nin’s wife, led the organizing. 

While we celebrate Ched’s release, it hurts to see so many other refugee families suffering.”
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“Community advocacy played a huge role in convincing the court to re-open his case,” Mariategue told HuffPost.

The DHS did not respond to HuffPost’s request for comment. 

Nin was born in a Thai refugee camp after his parents fled the Khmer Rouge, or Communist party, genocide of 1979 in Cambodia. He is part of the “Minnesota 8” — a group of eight Cambodian-American refugees living in the state all facing deportation.

Nin does carpentry work and has two sons and three daughters, one of whom has a congenital heart condition and depends on his health insurance. He is also the primary caretaker for his elderly mother and father, who is immobile.

Though Nin had already served his prison time, a 1996 federal law known as the Illegal Immigration Reform and Immigrant Responsibility Act makes it easier to deport immigrants with criminal records, even if they have green cards. Deportable crimes include a host of aggravated felonies such as writing a bad check. 

Among the reasons for Nin’s release was the fact his absence would cause his family hardship and the fact he is married to a U.S. citizen, said Paromita Shah, Associate Director of the National Immigration Project.

Shah, whose organization helped consult on the legal interventions for Nin’s case, told The Huffington Post that the 1996 law doesn’t leave much wiggle room for individual cases. 

“He was put into deportation because of the harsh provisions of the 1996 laws which, in many cases, preclude lawful permanent residents from getting a hearing before an immigration judge if they have certain types of criminal convictions,” Prah said. “This means evidence demonstrating his history as a homeowner, his employment as a high-skilled construction worker, his loving family and his connections to his community would never even come into court.”

Mariategue pointed out that Nin was lucky the court was convinced enough to re-open his case and stated that the DHS under President Donald Trump will not be as forgiving. Trump rescinded a 2014 DHS memorandum under the Obama administration, which focused on deporting immigrants with a criminal record but made the case for individuals who had shown rehabilitation efforts.

She says that means immigrants will need even greater resources down the road.

“While we celebrate Ched’s release, it hurts to see so many other refugee families suffering. We’ll continue to fight on a systemic level for policies that recognize rehabilitation, second chances, and the sanctity of family,” the action center said in a statement

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Riz Ahmed Expertly Nails Why On-Screen Diversity Isn't An 'Optional Extra'

Riz MC just dropped some truth about diversity in British media. 

“Rogue One” actor, Riz Ahmed, spoke to UK Parliament earlier this month on the subject. He explained why it’s not only important to cast more minorities in television roles, but also to represent them beyond two-dimensional tropes. 

In the speech, which was caught on camera, Ahmed explored how a lack of representation can affect a person of color’s self-perception and even push minority youth into extremism. 

“If we fail to represent, we are in danger of losing people to extremism. … In the mind of the ISIS recruit, he’s the next James Bond, right? Have you seen some of those ISIS propaganda videos—they are cut like action movies,” he said in the speech, which was hosted by Channel4. “Where is the counter narrative? Where are we telling these kids they can be heroes in our stories?”

And the consequences of lacking diversity aren’t limited to losing people to extremism, the actor explained in his speech. He pointed out that minorities want to know that they’re important to society.

Ahmed described how his mother and sister would excitedly shout “Asiaaaan!” when they saw some representation on TV. He said that, especially to people who don’t usually see themselves on screen, the inclusion of those characters with diverse backgrounds sends a message that “they matter.” Unfortunately, this doesn’t happen enough in the industry. 

“People are looking for the message that they belong, that they are part of something, that they are seen and heard and that despite, or perhaps because of, their experience, they are valued.”

“People are looking for the message that they belong, that they are part of something, that they are seen and heard and that despite, or perhaps because of, their experience, they are valued,” he said. “They want to feel represented. In that task we have failed.” 

Ahmed, who added that there are economic benefits to a more inclusive industry, also mentioned that the scarcity in representation denies minorities the opportunities to be exposed to the true range of possibilities of who they can be. Our imaginations need to be as expansive and as broad as the minority community actually is, he said. 

Ahmed himself had once thought there wasn’t a place for him as an actor and nor did he feel he’d have a future playing the trope “Cabdriver #2.” It was only with encouragement and luck that he said he persevered and succeeded.  

The “Night Of” star emphasized, however, that his success ― along with that of a few other actors of color ― doesn’t point to proper inroads made in the industry’s diversity. In fact, he said these actors represent “exceptions to the rule,” citing data from Creative Skillset. The research showed that from 2004 to 2012, ethnic minority representation in the UK television industry stayed below 10 percent. Perhaps even more shocking, as Ahmed pointed out, it actually dipped from 2009 to 2012. 

“We need to step up decisively and act,” the actor concluded. “Let’s do what’s right, let’s represent.” 

“There’s this body of research and a term known as ‘symbolic annihilation,’ which is the idea that if you don’t see people like you in the media you consume, you must somehow be unimportant.”

While Ahmed was addressing officials in the UK, his remarks carry some truth when applied to the U.S. film and television industry as well. Hollywood is far from perfect when it comes to diversity. People of color nabbed just over a quarter of all speaking roles in 2015’s top movies. And when it comes to the director’s chair, Asian and Blacks were barely represented in the top movies over the past decade. 

Nicole Martins, an associate professor at Indiana University Media School, previously told the Huffington Post that lack of on-screen representation can influence one’s self-perception. 

“When you don’t see people like yourself, the message is: You’re invisible. The message is: You don’t count. And the message is: ‘There’s something wrong with me.’”

And when members of underrepresented communities are cast as stereotypes, minority viewers of color “may wonder if that is all that is expected of you in society,”  Ana-Christina Ramón, assistant director of the Ralph J. Bunche Center for African American Studies at UCLA, told HuffPost. 

So, as Ahmed wrote in a Facebook post, diversity isn’t “an optional extra. Representation is fundamental to what expect from our culture.”

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Holly Robinson Peete Has A Crucial Message For Parents Of Boys

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Holly and Rodney Peete have a message to share with their fellow parents ― particularly those who have sons, like they do: Make sure you talk to your boys about consent.

“The concept of consent and letting your boys know when they can and when they cannot pursue a sexual encounter is very, very important,” Holly says. “These are things you have to talk to your boys about long before they go to college.”

The talk must be direct ― “No means no at any time,” Rodney says ― and must also address how to navigate the complicated situations that can arise on any campus.

“It’s all compounded with alcohol and partying and just this notion that when guys go to college, you kind of go there to have your big, fun, ‘Animal House’ kind of parties,” Holly says. “It’s just a really, really scary situation… You can’t mess around with this stuff.”

Amid the drinking and peer pressure, the Peetes urge their children to be their own person.

“You know, you hear these stories about these things happening with three or four guys with one woman,” Holly says. “Our sons need to be the guy that steps in and goes, ‘All you guys are wrong, and this can’t be.’”

“Be the leader in the group,” Rodney adds. “Do what’s right.”

The Peete’s docu-series, “For Peete’s Sake,” airs Saturday nights at 10 p.m. ET on OWN.

Need help? Visit RAINN’s National Sexual Assault Online Hotline or the National Sexual Violence Resource Center’s website.

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