13 Photos That Show C-Section Moms Are Strong As Hell

More than 30 percent of women in the United States deliver their babies via C-section, a surgery that can be essential and life-saving. And yet amid all the talk in public health circles about the need to lower the C-section rate, and our reverence for “natural” birth, many moms absorb the message that surgical delivery is somehow less than. We hear about women being told C-sections aren’t real birth, or that they took the easy way out. 

But C-section mothers, like all mothers, are fierce and their stories ― good and bad, disappointing and beloved ― are important to share. So too are their unique experiences learning how to live in their bodies again after those bodies have been transformed not only by pregnancy and motherhood, but by major surgery.

So HuffPost Parents asked New York City-area C-section mamas to share their birth stories and show off their scars to continue to normalize an experience that is extremely common, yet often treated as somehow secondary.

These are their stories, and this is what C-section moms look like. Which is to say, beautiful and strong as hell. 

These interviews have been edited and condensed for clarity.

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'SNL' Star Michael Che Refuses To Apologize For Calling Boston 'Racist'

Michael Che called Boston “the most racist city” he’s visited, and he’s sticking by that comment. But he also wants Bostonians to know that he has no hard feelings against them.

In an Instagram post on Saturday, the “Saturday Night Live” star responded to the recent media attention he received thanks to a joke he made about the American city in February.

“Listen Boston, my grandma is racist too, but I still love her. & I still love you,” Che wrote on the photo-sharing app alongside a screenshot of a tweet from The Boston Globe. 

For a little context, Che called Boston “the most racist city I’ve ever been to” during a “Weekend Update” segment that aired the night before Super Bowl LI. As Boston.com notes, the joke didn’t earn a lot of media coverage, but was reported on at the time by WEEI, a local radio station.

Last Thursday, Che brought up the comment again during a set at Boston University, saying he received some backlash over social media. But he didn’t apologize.

Instead, according to The Boston Globe, he told the crowd that he doesn’t apologize for his jokes or their subsequent controversies because he’s just “trying to be more presidential.” 

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Kevin Hart Responds To Dave Chappelle Calling Him Out On Netflix

If you felt a sudden chill while watching Netflix recently, it probably came during Dave Chappelle’s jokes about Kevin Hart. Apparently when Chappelle took his son to see one of Hart’s shows, the latter pulled a pretty cold move.

In his first comedy special on Netflix — which happened to be his first LA show in 10 years — Chappelle recalled what happened, saying he was slightly miffed by all the success Hart was having. Then, after taking his son backstage, Hart gave the kid a custom jersey with “K. Hart” stitched on it.

“Your father ever makes you mad, put that on,” Hart apparently told his son.

“Oh, that was some cold shit,” said Chappelle. “Then I realized, looked up, what Kevin made on Google. I couldn’t believe that shit. Kevin is the first comedian that a Drake song could be about. Kevin could walk around his house and sing, ‘All Me’ and the whole song would still be true.” 

Now, Hart is responding.

While answering fan questions on Twitter, the comedian said he thought the bit was “amazing.” 

But Twitter is full of trolls who don’t want anyone to have fun, so one person just wanted Hart to know that Chappelle was funnier than him. The comedian handled it well.

Actually, he might even agree with the statement. Hart has previously said in a 2013 interview, “You can’t compare anybody to Dave Chappelle.”

Just in case you still weren’t clear on where he stood on the bit, he even cited Chappelle as one of his favorite comedians.

This guy’s got Hart.

H/T PhillyVoice

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Why We Need A Muslim Women’s Day

Faced with increasingly hostile climate of Islamophobia, Muslim women have remained strong, fierce, and unapologetically themselves ― and it’s about damn time we had a day to honor their resilience. 

MuslimGirl, a website made for and by Muslim women, is partnering with dozens of media organizations to designate March 27 as Muslim Women’s Day. Coming at the end of Women’s History Month, the campaign seeks to center the voices and experiences of Muslim women.

Media partners including MTV, Refinery29, Teen Vogue, and HuffPost Women are joining in to feature stories that elevate Muslim women’s narratives.

Amani Al-Khatahtbeh, MuslimGirl’s Editor-in-Chief, sees the day as a chance for allies to “pass the mic” to Muslim women. 

“There are so many conversations unfolding around us right now about the women’s movement and the Muslim ban, and Muslim women are rarely given the space to be heard above the noise. This also comes at a time when Muslim women have become the most visible targets of anti-Muslim bigotry,” Al-Khatahtbeh told The Huffington Post. “I hope that #MuslimWomensDay is a launching pad for greater and more inclusive representation for Muslim women in the media.”

Muslim women who are active online are often targeted with Islamophobic rhetoric and hate speech. The threats and cyber abuse from trolls make it harder for women seeking to create safe spaces for themselves online.

A recent survey from The Institute for Social Policy and Understanding found that Muslim women were more likely than Muslim men to report discrimination in the last year (68 percent vs. 55 percent). They were also more likely than Muslim men to say that they feared for their safety from white supremacist groups (47 percent vs. 31 percent).  

Nevertheless, Muslim women have remained incredibly resilient. They were no more likely than men to change their appearance to be less identifiably Muslim (with roughly 15 percent of both men and women saying they did so). And they report increasing their donations Muslim organizations. 

“It’s time to hear from a community that’s often talked about but rarely given the chance to speak,” Al-Khatahtbeh wrote in a post about the campaign.

“Contrary to what people might think, Muslim women talk back. And on Muslim Women’s Day, the world will be listening.” 

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The Dance Theatre Of Harlem Just Put On The Best Impromptu Airport Show

When facing a delayed flight, most people pass the extra airport time by overdoing it on Panda Express, splurging on a paperback bestseller, or taking a classy nap on the floor.

But for the Dance Theatre of Harlem, a slight airport holdup just means more time to practice. 

Ballerina Ingrid Silva posted a video on Instagram on Sunday, in which a talented group of DTH dancers transform a moving walkway at the Pittsburgh International Airport into an impromptu stage. The team wiggles, kicks, and arabesques their way through the terminal ― set to a choice soundtrack ― showing that some of us don’t need an airplane to defy gravity. 

Prepare for liftoff and check out the stellar moves above. 

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Ill Teen Who Exchanged 'I Love You's With Beyoncé On FaceTime Dies

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Ebony Banks, a high school student with cancer who last week received a surprise FaceTime call from her idol Beyoncé, has died, according to reports.

Banks passed away on Sunday in Houston, KHOU reported. Mourners gathered for a candlelight vigil at Alief Hastings High School. 

Earlier this month, Banks had received her diploma from the school during a special ceremony at the hospital. She had reportedly spent most of her senior year there fighting stage 4 cancer.

Her spirits brightened considerably on Wednesday when she received a video chat call on FaceTime from Beyoncé and the two told each other, “I love you.”

Friends had initiated a viral campaign to reach Beyoncé and arrange the conversation, fulfilling Banks’ wish to meet her.

According to Us Weekly, Banks had hoped to someday become a pediatric nurse and help others fighting cancer.

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Protesters Take On Settlements In ‘Biggest Ever Jewish-Led Protest’ Of AIPAC

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On Sunday, hundreds of mostly young, American Jews rallied in Washington, D.C., during the first day of the American Israel Public Affairs Committee 2017 Convention, to protest the expansion of Israeli settlements in East Jerusalem and the West Bank.

“We’re protesting [AIPAC] en masse as Jews to say that to be Jewish in America at this moment doesn’t mean to support Israel unconditionally,” said 25-year-old Yonah Lieberman, one of the co-founders of the anti-settlement group IfNotNow, which spearheaded the protest in Washington D.C. 

Lieberman described Sunday’s march as “the biggest ever Jewish-led protest of AIPAC.”

Non-Jewish leaders like academic and activist Cornel West joined in Sunday’s protest, which saw participants briefly blocking the doors of the conference.  

The annual conference of the powerful pro-Israel lobby draws heavyweights from both ends of the political spectrum: This year’s speakers include House Speaker Paul Ryan (R-Wis.) and House Democratic Leader Nancy Pelosi  (D-Calif.). Though the group describes itself as bipartisan, it’s commonly viewed as a right-leaning organization ― or at least one that is unfriendly to criticism of the Israeli government’s right-wing policies. 

AIPAC has historically avoided taking a firm stance on settlements, but has had a hand in influencing policy that tilts in their favor. Critics, like Lieberman, are more blunt in their assessment:

“AIPAC is the largest institution that supports Israeli settlements,” he said Sunday. “They’ve done more in the past 50 years to support occupation than anyone else in the Jewish community.”  

Sunday’s protests are symbolic stands against not only Israel’s half century-long settlement stance, but policies of President Donald Trump’s nascent administration. 

Earlier this year when the Israeli government approved the construction of thousands of new settlement homes in the West Bank and East Jerusalem, despite Palestinian opposition and widespread international condemnation, Trump’s administration took a more amiable stance on the development than those of previous administrations ― which flatly opposed any construction of settler homes. 

The Trump administration’s closer alignment to the Israeli government was confirmed at AIPAC by Ron Dermer, Israel’s ambassador to the U.S., during Sunday’s conference.

“For the first time in many years, perhaps even many decades, there is no daylight between our two governments,” Dermer said.

 

AIPAC will be pro-Israel at any cost, prioritizing the occupation over the safety of the Jewish community and other marginalized people in America.
Sara Sandmel, an IfNotNow member

 AIPAC was also criticized for what protesters said was a weak stance against a growing wave of anti-Semitism in the U.S.

“I’ve never seen the sort of antisemitism we’re seeing today, but despite bomb threats and desecrated cemeteries, AIPAC has chosen to remain silent,” Sara Sandmel, an IfNotNow member from Boston, said in a statement Sunday.

“This proves without a doubt that AIPAC will be pro-Israel at any cost, prioritizing the occupation over the safety of the Jewish community and other marginalized people in America.”

Lieberman said the new dynamic creates a “unique moral moment for the Jewish-American community.”

“Now, we have a unique role to play to ensure the occupation comes to an end,” he said. “We have a responsibility to resist it.” 

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'Orange Is The New Black' Star Samira Wiley And Writer Lauren Morelli Get Married

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The confetti was surely flying during this particular wedding day!

Orange Is the New Black” star Samira Wiley on Saturday married her longtime girlfriend, Lauren Morelli, in a special ceremony celebrating their mutual love for Pillsbury Funfetti cake, Martha Stewart Weddings reports. The nontraditional, confetti-themed nuptials took place in Palm Springs, California.

Wiley’s parents officiated the ceremony, which began with a procession up the aisle to Montell Jordan’s “This Is How We Do It.” The actress and Morelli, who is a writer on the Netflix series, wore custom Christian Siriano ensembles, with Wiley changing her look before hitting the dance floor to Justin Bieber’s “Baby.”

Martha Stewart Weddings shared a photo from the event on Instagram and will feature the wedding in an upcoming issue. 

Wiley and Morelli met while on the set of “OITNB.” Morelli divorced her husband of two years in 2014 after realizing she was gay while shooting the show. She came out in a Mic essay that same year, and subsequently began dating Wiley. 

“Samira became my outlet,” Morelli told Out magazine in December, “and through that process I fell in love with her. But I thought, This will be the one that got away. Being with her felt too good to be true.”

Congrats to the happy couple!

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Haunted By ‘Get Out’ — But Not Because It’s A Horror Film

After watching the movie “Get Out” (only once unlike several friends who’ve already seen it 3 times), my eyes have been wide open. I am highly attuned and alert…and also confused. Have I, like the characters in the film, ever said incredibly offensive things to people of color in an effort to demonstrate just how “cool” and “liberated” I am? I certainly hope not, but the feeling I have now is that you can never be entirely too sure.

The current box office hit has been labeled a “suspense” and “horror” film and is very reminiscent of The Stepford Wives in its depiction of mysterious characters who remind us of people we’ve actually known. Get Out highlights a nationwide problem: how White people regard and treat African Americans. Sometimes Caucasians go overboard in their attempts at flattery, just as the parents (played by Bradley Whitford and Catherine Keener) of Rose (Alison Williams) do while welcoming her dark-skinned black boyfriend Chris (Daniel Kaluuya) to the family home. In stereotypical horror film fashion, there is frightening foreshadowing leading up to the family visit. When Chris reaches the estate grounds with Rose, the feel is old fashioned & the help also just happens to be black. They are Georgina and Walter (played by Betty Gabriel and Marcus Henderson) who seem robotic, eerily soulless and painstakingly devoted to their tasks. Rose’s dad makes a concerted effort to show just how open-minded he is and overdoes it in the most cringe-worthy way imaginable. Oh, the shit white people say…now sink into your movie chair.

As a woman whose skin is pale, I came away pensive. In the resulting week, I’m more perplexed.

Without spoiling Get Out, I will say that as a woman whose skin is pale, I came away pensive. In the resulting week, I’m more perplexed. The movie was incredibly powerful, but it highlighted for me how we can all make buffoons of ourselves in the face of diversity. In an ultra-PC environment ― that Donald Trump notoriously seems to shun ― there are several types of Americans. Among them are the blatant racists and of the other extreme, those who want to prove how un-racist they are that they end up overdoing it.

The film may also have another message for its audience about Caucasians adopting black culture, glorifying it and even including parts of it as its own without acknowledging origins. Because I love pop culture, I’ll look there for examples: While Eminem frequently credits his predecessors and professional influences, do other white rappers pay homage to those who paved the way? When Tom Hanks youngest son talks like an African American in a video – despite the fact that we know he’s Rita and Tom’s son – is it fine to just chalk it up to immaturity? I also think of Rachel Dolezal who made the news and was so controversial. Was she disrespectful of African Americans or do we try to see her through an empathetic lens, a woman whose heart and mind were overly consumed with black culture and history?

With interracial relationships, it is impossible to ignore that it’s not about cleaving to one culture but thoroughly examining both, not rushing in, and deciding how to honor respective roots.

Furthermore, with interracial relationships, it is impossible to ignore that it’s not about cleaving to one culture but thoroughly examining both, not rushing in, and deciding how to honor respective roots. Do Caucasians take and take from black culture (frequently) and make it a white thing? This undoubtedly happens. I’m sure it’s a sensitive subject in the world of athletes and endorsement deals combined with public appearances.

The Stepford Wives inspiration for Jordan Peele’s Get Out (yes, this is was the brainchild of the comedian who is part of the duo Key & Peele) is not only what makes it comedy, but what makes it completely tragic. Are white people depleting the richness of black culture – say, by taking an African American theme and watering it down in a film so it meets box office standards? Other films may spring to mind such as Steve Harvey’s Think Like A Man. Is that white male friend there to bring in white viewers and “normalize” things in Hollywood’s eyes? Can white people not relate to and be comfortable with an all-black group of guys?

Get Out is almost like Scary Movie in the way it points out not only societal but horror film tropes. In the 1980s, when movies from Gremlins to Nightmare on Elm Street brought in viewers, black characters were often relegated to the sidelines, barely even minor supporting characters. Now, Get Out’s central figure is a black man paired with the extremely fair Rose – and the irony is not lost on viewers that the actress, Brian Williams’ daughter, is oh so white (exemplified further by her character Marnie on HBO’s Girls).

There is even the hilarious black sidekick so often seen in movies, Chris’s friend played by comedian Lil Rey Howery ―The twist here is that the sidekick becomes a more prolific character as the film moves along.

Coming out of Get Out, I was filled with questions. Have I been guilty of uttering any words that would be considered “micro-aggressions”…ever?

Coming out of Get Out, I was filled with questions. Have I been guilty of uttering any words that would be considered “micro-aggressions”…ever? One particular story comes to mind: I told a woman of color that I could relate to her hair struggles because of my own naturally curly, coarse and stubborn locks. How wrong was that to say? A Trump supporter told me recently “I’m just sick of political correctness. You may not like Donald but I like that he’s finally saying exactly what’s on people’s minds!” Uh..no. I personally hate it, but there has to be a middle ground. I felt that the movie conveyed that we need to find that middle ground. We should behave naturally around people of color and respect people as people rather than pointing out the tone of their skin.

We should not be isolating the only black person in the room, asking them about the “African American experience” (you’ll get it when you see Get Out). However, it’s all complicated because while we aren’t to make a big deal, we also need to be aware of things that come a friend’s way from other directions – ranging from awkward remarks that heighten awareness of race to slightly discriminating behavior to blatant profiling, bigotry, racism and hatred. We also need to be aware of a friend’s history.

If you look at message boards and Facebook comments today, you’ll cringe while noting how some people don’t care or double-check their words. A few months back, a Facebook acquaintance made a comment in my feed about Obama being undignified. “He dropped the mic. He was Ghetto” she wrote. Ghetto?! I asked in horror as more people flew to my feed to point out how racist this woman sounded. “Of course you’re saying it’s racist,” she replied “because you don’t like what you hear.” She must have had a change of heart because moments later she deleted her comments and unfriended me. While her words were completely foreign and anathema to me, Get Out had me questioning my own. Have I ever bent over backwards so much to prove I wasn’t racist that it actually backfired to the point of seeming racist? I certainly hope not, but unlike our president, I don’t see anything wrong with checking my political correctness and reevaluating the way I speak.

The movie leaves you with two sentiments: You can never be too observant and also, you totally can be…

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Mindy Kaling Says Yes To Dinner Date With Sen. Cory Booker After 'Dissing Newark'

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This is what romance looks like in the 21st century ― and we’re all for it. 

It all began with a diss on Hulu’s “The Mindy Project” and ended with Mindy Kaling agreeing to go on a date with New Jersey Sen. Cory Booker

On Tuesday’s episode, Kaling’s character Dr. Mindy Lahiri joked that she couldn’t believe Booker showed up to her party:

“Cory Booker? I can’t believe he came. I guess anything to get out of Newark, huh?” 

On Thursday, Booker tweeted at Kaling that he heard her “Mindy Project” character had dissed Newark and posted a link to a Vogue article on why it’s worth visiting. The senator made sure to keep the tweet light-hearted and was quite flirty with his use of emojis ― not to mention the fact he added “(I still ❤️ U”). 

Kaling responded by assuring Booker that anything her character dislikes is actually cool:  

And then something magical and rom-com worthy happened. He asked her out! On Twitter! 

And. Then. She. Said. Yes. 

Are you swooning yet?  

As this was unfolding in real time PATH chimed in with its train schedule to ensure that this date actually happens. 

So far no word on when the date will happen, but we wish them all the best. 

 

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